If you and your partner have just received the great news that you are expecting an addition to your family, first of all, congrats! However, once the initial glee passes, you will soon realize that plenty is expected of you as a dad-to-be. Just because you are not the one carrying the little one for nine months, it doesn’t mean that you can kick back and wait for the baby to arrive. You should make yourself as useful as possible to your partner who will be doing most of the heavy lifting. With that in mind, here is how you can help your wife or girlfriend during pregnancy.
For starters, once you get the news that your partner is pregnant, you want to learn as much as you can about the whole process. Read books on what she will be going through instead of swarming her with every question that pops into your head. You can also look online for some vital information as well as listen to various lectures that cover everything from the prenatal vitamins that should be taken to what you can expect after birth.
Listen to what they are saying
On the other hand, while you shouldn’t be ignorant about the whole situation and keep asking your partner questions, you do need to listen to what she is telling you. If they tell you to go to the store and get them some specific food, do it. If they say they’re tired and need some rest, be as quiet as possible and let them rest. Moreover, as your partner’s body changes, you can expect her to be a bit insecure and expect support. You have to be there for her, tell her she’s still beautiful, and that she’ll be a great parent. If she is expressing certain concerns, make sure you carefully take in every word and see if there is something you can do together to tackle the particular problem.
Help around the house
Although your partner might refuse to take things slowly, you should still take on more responsibilities. For instance, if you don’t already do various chores around the house, it’s high time you did. Take care of food and consider meal prepping as a great solution to always have tasty dishes within reach. Then, remember to vacuum and clean your home on a regular basis. Even though light exercise is recommended to pregnant people, you still want to pitch in. What is more, keep in mind that your partner might be put on bed rest during some point of the pregnancy to preserve their and the baby’s health. If that happens, everything will depend on you, so make sure you know what you’re doing around your home.
Surprise your partner on occasion
The holiday season might be over but it doesn’t mean that you should not surprise your pregnant partner with a gift. Some interesting options you can consider include keepsake pregnancy journals that will help you track every moment of this period as well as framed sonogram pictures. Then, you can also look into more practical things like compression socks and pregnancy pillows. Lastly, snack baskets and mocktail subscription boxes are another great idea.
Offer a steady hand during delivery
Once you reach the due date, you should pack a hospital bag with all the essentials that your partner might need while waiting to go into labor and later. In addition to clothes and toiletries, some interesting games and books as well as phone chargers and headphones are essential to help pass the time. However, it is also important that you are present during birth and that you are there for your partner when they need you the most. Hold their hand and help them push.
Don’t neglect your own health
Finally, it’s also essential that you don’t neglect your own health. Keep eating healthily and get enough rest and physical activity. Make sure to have some time for yourself as well, as your mental health shouldn’t get overlooked either. Dads-to-be can also deal with anxiety and depression so if you don’t want to bother your partner, you should talk to other people you’re close to or even a therapist. Get the help you need in order to be there for your partner and child.
If you’re going to be a father soon, you need to educate yourself and help your partner as much as possible. Keep the above-listed tips in mind.