Despite what some people might think, raising children by yourself is a tough job. I’m fortunate that I have a significant other to support me in raising our child. But when it’s just me and “the kid” at home, I struggle. It’s hard to do anything around the house apart from supervising, playing and comforting our little bundle of joy.
So you can imagine how much harder life is if your other half is in the military and you’re alone with your child for weeks or even months on end. If that sounds like a predicament you are in, don’t worry because you’re not the only one!
Here are some super tips for all you military mothers out there:
Build up a support network
It doesn’t matter whether you are living on or off-base. What does matter is that you have built up a support network. The people in your network could be other military mothers, friends and relatives.
It’s important that you have people to “lean on” when you need help. For example, sometimes you might need some time to do your household chores, or just to have some alone time. In others, you might wish to attend to pressing personal matters.
Don’t despair; babies DO grow up
It might feel like you have to give up your old life once you have a baby. But you should keep telling yourself that littles ones do grow up eventually! Before you know it, they will soon reach a point where they go to nursery or school.
As time goes on, you will find that you can do the things you used to do before you became a parent. You should use this time to enjoy your child as a baby because time passes quickly!
Don’t live in a home you hate
One of the things that can make you feel depressed about your life is living somewhere you hate. The good news is that you don’t have to put up with living on military bases! Places like Ultris Rancho Del Oro offer the best of both worlds: off-base living but with a military community around you!
In some cases, you might find that it’s cheaper to live off-base. When you’re bringing up a child alone temporarily, the extra money will sure come in handy.
Join a playgroup
When you’re looking after a baby and your spouse is deployed, you need to spend some time away from home. It’s important that you socialise with other people, in particular, other parents. One brilliant way to do that is to join a playgroup.
It’s a place where both you and your baby are welcome, and you can both have a fun time together. Parents make new friends at playgroups, and it’s even a way to build up your support network that I mentioned earlier.
Keep in touch with your spouse
Thanks to the Internet, it’s possible to make video calls to people with ease. Whether you use FaceTime on your iPhone or Skype on your PC, you can keep in regular contact with your spouse. It’s good for you because it means you won’t feel so sad living without your significant other.
And it’s good for your other half because he gets to see his two favourite people in the world while he’s on active duty!