All relationships have problems from time to time. Sometimes they are minor things, like a small argument. Sometimes they are major things, like continual abuse (physical or emotional). All relationship issues need to be dealt with or they will spiral out of control.
Take some time to reflect on your relationship. While it’s good, and important, to see the positives in your relationship, don’t mask the negatives. Have you been putting up with bad stuff and masking it with a happy face? You could be making things worse for yourself, and your relationship.
Pinpoint the problems and then make a plan to make a change. This change will lead to a healthier relationship, or at least a healthier you. You can walk away even if you’re married if your relationship is harming your health.
Talk Things Out
Start off by talking about things. When you bottle things up inside it just makes the anger and resentment grow. However, you need to learn to actually “talk”.
Yelling and arguing are not going to settle things. If you need to, consider having a mediator come in to help you work through things, even if it has to be a mutual, unbiased, friend in the beginning.
Go To Therapy
Going into therapy as an individual and/or as a couple can also be helpful. Marriage or relationship counseling allows you a mediator that is completely unbiased and that knows the inner workings of relationships to help you and your significant other work through your problems or come to a conclusion when it comes to the life of your relationship.
Know When To Walk Away
Not all relationships are meant to last forever, so it’s important to know how to tell when yours has run its course. People stay together long past the life of relationships far too often, and for many reasons. Just because you have children together doesn’t mean you need to live together.
If you’re in an abusive relationship, walking away may not be all that easy. You may need to consider going into a battered women’s shelter or going to the police.
Don’t Be Afraid Of The Hard Parts
Yes, there are those hard parts to leaving. Like going to the police in order to file a restraining order against an abusive spouse. However, that’s easier than dealing with the abuse until you die, right? Many abusive spouses will threaten more abuse or will try to make the spouse think they are crazy for feeling abused. Don’t let that stop you from getting free.
The simple act of saying it’s over and walking away can be difficult. Find yourself a good support team that will help you get out and move on. You can do it, you just have to be ready and willing.